When You Get Bad News

My silence for the past couple weeks is due in part to a holiday, too many auctions, a mild medical emergency, and news from a friend that crushed me to the core.

 Bad news is not an uncommon occurrence. People receive it every day. But when it is given to one of your people it's a different story.

 It's so easy to pray for the second cousin's neighbor's friend who is diagnosed with cancer. To stop right then and whisper a quick, "Lord, please help them." Even to remember several times to pray.

 But when it's a friend or someone you love it's much harder.

 I've found I don't have the words to pray for my friend who heard the words, "stage four cancer in several organs," last week. I don't have words to pray other than, "Jesus, help." I don't have words of comfort to offer either. 

 And that's exactly what I said.

 "I don't have words but I love you."

 Sometimes it's enough to just let them know we care.
I enjoy simple things: the sound of the rain, the laughter of a child, a cup of tea. a good book I believe in Jesus and I want to shine for Him. I love to cook. Chocolate is a life essential. Fresh cut fries are my weakness. I love to make people laugh (even at my own expense). I work out almost everyday (but I don't like it). I'm an introvert, a pastor's wife, and I love to write.

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